Mary: His Mother, Our Model

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So much has been said and is said about Mary the mother of Jesus!

Reactions to Mary range from worshipping her on the one hand to ignoring her on the other hand.

It is easy to see why the medieval church would feel very close to Mary.

For God the Father was so very far removed in the heavens.

Jesus was always pictured as on the cross in agony.

Mary alone seemed touchable, human.

We need to also understand what has been the traditional Protestant reaction to Mary because of the teaching in Scripture that there is one mediator between God and man, the man Christ Jesus.

Can we have a balanced view from Scripture?

Who was Mary and in what way was she a model to us at this Christmas time?

Look with me at Mary’s relationship with God.

It shines so very clearly in the Scripture in the text we have read today.

What were the ingredients of that relationship, which strike us as modeling the kinds of relationship the Lord wants in our lives?




1. Mary was a moral person

She is named as a virgin.

She was upright in her character.


2. Mary was a very normal person

In her relationship to God, Mary was a very normal person.

What kind of a reaction would you have if an angel appeared to you and brought you the news that he brought to Mary? 2
That reaction that Mary projects is the reaction of being troubled.

It is just the kind of reaction we would expect of such a message.

She was greatly troubled in her mind, casting around in herself as to what the meaning of this was.

And again, she had a normal reaction when she is told by the angel that she is to give birth without having had a husband.

How can this be?

It is not the kind of question that Zahariah asked.

Zachariah showed unbelief and was therefore struck dumb.

Mary’s question appears to arise not so much from unbelief in the angel’s message but rather instead arises from how is it going to be accomplished?

What is the method that is going to be involved?


3. Mary was a person of belief

She said to the angel when his appearance to her was at its end,
“Behold I am the handmaid of the Lord. Let it be to me according to your word.”

She believed that the Lord would accomplish the word, which had been promised her.

If the angel indeed indicated that Elizabeth who was a woman known as one barren should now be with child, through the miraculous intervention of God why then in her own life would anything be impossible.

The angel had brought the news, ‘With God nothing shall be impossible.’

She believed.

There’s a tremendous difference between believing and gullibility.

To be a believer is not to be a gullible person.

‘But it is to make a step of faith based upon the evidences, which God provides that he will keep his word.’

An example of gullibility is belief in Santa Claus.

An example of faith is belief in Jesus.

Sometimes people treat the two as the same.

At Christmas we have Santa Claus and Jesus as if both belong to the realm of mythology.

But the difference is quickly established when you begin looking at the fact that I don’t know anyone who prays to Santa Claus.

And I don’t know anyone when they hit their thumb with a hammer uses as a curse word “Santa Claus!”

And I don’t know if I’ve ever heard anywhere over the world that people gather at least once a week to worship Santa Claus.

Nor have I ever heard of anyone being killed for his faith in Santa Claus. Recant Santa Claus or die!

Belief in Jesus is another story.

The story is rooted in reality.

Mary in her relationship with God is a woman who is alive spiritually.

It shows in her greeting to Elizabeth, the magnificat in Luke 1:46-55 where she bursts out in song upon that meeting with her cousin Elizabeth.

In that song which is her own special arrangement if you will of Hannah’s song in 1 Samuel 2, it reflects that she has gone through that sifting of the Scripture with the experience which is happening to her and has embedded into her life the words of God to describe the experience that she was having.

She was not only to have a child, she was to understand what was being involved in the meaning of that child’s coming.

But I think in her relationship with God, the most striking quality that comes to me is that like us she is a recipient of grace.


4. Mary is a recipient of God’s grace

The angel twice indicates to her that she has found favor with God.

In the English translation the word comes across as ‘favor’ but it is rooted in that word which consistently throughout the New Testament is translated as ‘grace’.

Mary, one having received grace from God.

The grace-life.

In fact the phrase which is found in the angel’s first word to her,
“Hail, Mary, O favored one.”

The “O favored one” in verb form there’s only one other place in the New Testament where that word is again found in verb form.

Ephesians 1:6
“ …to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves.”

In other words, the same word which is used to describe the grace of God for Mary is the word which is used to describe the grace of God for us.

The idea of Mary as a graced person does not carry with it the association of Mary being full of grace to the effect that she dispenses grace.

But rather she is one who receives grace.

What is the qualification for receiving grace?

Is it works?


As a pure and beautiful a life as Mary had when the grace of God comes, it comes as a result of God’s compassion and God’s love and God’s initiation.

Even Mary like us is not worthy of the grace of God.

But God in his great love for Mary and for us and the human race has given to us Jesus, the Christ.

The bestowal of grace upon Mary takes away the notion that you have to be mean in order to experience God’s grace.

Paul was mean and he was the apostle of grace when he got saved.

But Mary, a beautiful human being, yet in order to bring Jesus into the world needed to experience God’s grace.

In no human life can Jesus be born unless God’s grace makes it possible.

There was in the Scripture also the indication of another relationship that Mary had.

She was not only beautifully related to God she was beautifully related to her husband Joseph.



To be favored of God is not to be set aside and then monastically isolated from people.

But to be graced of God is to be joined in the wholeness of human relationships.

God so appointed a wonderful husband Joseph, for Mary.

Matthew indicates very clearly that Joseph knew Mary not until she had brought forth the Christ child.

That word “He knew her not until” indicates that after the birth of Jesus, Mary and Joseph had the normal human relationship that comes in being husband and wife.

The word for “know” is the same word here that is used in Genesis 4:1 “Now Adam knew his wife and she conceived and brought forth Cain.”

We know from the New Testament that there were at least six other children born to their home – James, Joseph, Simon, Judas, and at least two sisters for the word “sister” is in the plural.

Jesus the oldest of at least seven children.

Can you imagine in their home when Jesus was about ten what kinds of responsibilities that Jesus had not only as the son of Mary but as the elder brother.

His being an elder brother so beautifully describes also the role that he has in relationship to us.

For he’s not only our Savior but there is that certain sense that we can always look at His life and recognize that he’s been there before us.

He’s the older brother who knows how to console and how to give strength and how to go through this experience.

Speaking of the tough times, maybe when Joseph and Mary looking back of course the toughest time they had was on that road to Bethlehem.

A third area of relationship where Mary becomes a real model to us is Mary’s relationship to her own son, Jesus.



It was Jesus who would grow under her care especially, although Joseph’s as well.

It would be she who would hear him say his first words, who would sing to him, who would watch him take his first steps, and who would brush the tears from his eyes.

Yet as Jesus grew in regard to his mother the overwhelming evidence of Scripture confirms that the overriding concern of Jesus is to transfer, in regard to his mother’s relationship to him, from a biological sphere to a spiritual sphere.

Simeon had noted this that day when Mary had brought him to the temple.

He had said to Mary, ‘A sword shall pierce through your own heart also’.

When Jesus is but twelve years of age Mary comes to him and finds him a and says to him while He is in the temple – they had missed him for three days – your father and I have been looking  for you anxiously. 

Jesus replied to her was stunning,
“Did you not know that I must be in my Father’s house.”

Jesus is actually telling them,
“Now you must get used to the new relationship. It is my Father’s business that I am about.”

At the first miracle, the wedding of Cana, Mary asks Jesus to do something about the lack of wine.

He responds to her, “Woman, what have you to do with me?”

That is to say, ‘Do you realize now the situation is shifting? No longer can you simply relate tome on the biological level as my mother’.

In fact, Jesus will go on to say when his mother and his brothers come looking for him on one occasion to bring him home because they’re beginning to feel that maybe he’s taken a step too far and he hasn’t been the kind of king that they had expected.

Jesus turns around to the crowd and he says,
“Who is my brother and my sister and my mother?” And he answers his own question:
“Whoever does my Father’s will is my brother and my sister and my mother.”

When Jesus was blessed by women who called out to him in Luke 11:27-28,
“Blessed is the womb that bore you and the breasts that you sucked.” He said to them,
“Rather, blessed are those who hear the word of God and keep it.”

Jesus in his great love for his mother gradually was able to transfer that relationship so that more than simply being his mother on a biological into a spiritual one.

Later on Mary was able to enter into the richness and the treasure of the salvation which Jesus had won through his sacrifice and intercession in life, just like all the other believers.

Jesus gently brought his mother to himself.

Mary shines out in one other relationship, which is a model. Her relationship to the church.



In Acts 1:14 after Jesus’ ascension into heaven we are given a description of the 120 who are the first Christian congregation gathering together in worship.

Luke notes,
“They all joined together constantly in prayer, along with the women and Mary the mother of Jesus, and His brothers.”

Mary was there on the day of Pentecost.

In that ten day interval between the ascension and Pentecost when the early church was gathered for prayer, Mary had not withdrawn herself from the Christian congregation.

Nor did she even put herself in a role of leading it.

But she has taken her part as one of the faithful.

It’s one thing for Jesus to be born to the world.

It’s another thing for Jesus to be born into our lives.

Has it ever struck you that Luke who was the chronicler of most of the nativity, more about the nativity than any of the other gospels, perhaps knew Mary the best?

Jesus was honored by his mother in her becoming a regular part of the community which was gathered in his name.

I think we honor Jesus when we as well become a regular part of those who worship him all through life.

Mary in her relationship to God shows herself as one filled with grace in her relationship to her husband Joseph she shows herself as a beautiful wife and mother.

In her relationship with Jesus she shows herself as one who is transferred from the biological understanding of being the mother of the Lord to that spiritual perception of being at the foot of the cross and worshipping Jesus, her Savior.

And she shows a beautiful model to us as well in being associated with the church which is gathered in the Lord’s name.

Whenever Christ is born into the world, whenever Christ is born into our hearts there is cost involved.

For Mary it cost her reputation.

Years later there still rumors I’m sure at Nazareth as to the circumstances of his birth.

It cost something to Mary to be the vessel through which the Son of God would enter the world.

It cost her also hardship.

She could have said no that day to the angel and avoided that entire trail to Bethlehem and avoided those two years in exile in Egypt, those years of hardship when they were running for their life.

Sure they could say no to the message of Christmas and miss the hardship.

But to miss the hardship that sometimes comes with being identified with His name is to miss the glory of all that is associated with His name.

Mary simply believed the word of the angel Gabriel when he said to her, ‘With God nothing shall be impossible.’

You may have thought it’s impossible for God to save me but it’s not.

And there’s no better Christmas than this Christmas to say in your heart, Jesus is Lord.