The Relationship Series: Overcome Fear of Rejection

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Relationship Series

Overcome Fear of Rejection

Text: Ephesians 1:11-12

Rejection or fear of rejection is widespread. Psychologists both Christian and secular suggest that acceptance is a fundamental human need. When we are rejected, by even one member of a social group, our motivation and drive are negatively affected. Rejection can thus have a weakening, even devastating, effect on our lives.

Rejection can take many forms:

  • Children by parents
  • Children by peers
  • Teenagers by peers
  • Husbands by wives
  • Wives by husbands
  • Parents by children

In the current economic climate, many people are enduring:

  • Confidence destroying experiences
  • Ego-shattering experiences

People are continually given messages like:

  • We don’t want you
  • You don’t measure up to our standards
  • You aren’t good enough
  • We reject you

Of course, an easy way to avoid rejection is to stop making approaches. If we offer nothing, then nothing can be rejected. But this is a defeatist way of handling things, and leads to despair and hopelessness.

There is a better option! One of the most beautiful things about the Gospel is that rejection loses its power when we are in Christ.

Here are four Christian affirmations/confessions that neutralize the power of rejection. When these are integrated into our lives, they can keep us positive regardless of what happens to us.

1) My Worth is in Christ

I am valuable because of the price Jesus paid for me. Generally, we assess the value of an object by how much it costs. When we buy something for someone as a token of love, it already has value because it’s a nice act.

Price + Sacrifice expresses how much we value someone. When we consider the cost and sacrifice Jesus paid for us, we realize how valuable we are. See Peter 1:18-20.

God gave the life of His only Son to buy us back to Himself. Who can estimate the monetary value of the life of the Son of God? If we cost God that much, who can estimate the value of OUR lives! No matter what others think about us, we are of incredible value.

2) My Identity is in Christ

I have a sense of dignity because of what Christ has done for me. He transformed me into His likeness.

Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

If we are God’s workmanship, then what we are is good! We are God’s work of art, therefore it is irrelevant if people like what they see in us. We have no need to feel ashamed or inferior.

Our purpose is to achieve good things. Our commission is to live an upright life characterized by doing good. Even our good works have been prepared by God. He has already ensured our success. All we need to do is walk in His will and carry out the tasks He has prepared for us. We are God’s workmanship, regardless of what anyone thinks!

3) My Security is in Christ

I have no fear of loss, failure, or ruin because the Lord is with me. Jesus said, “That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food or drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing?” (Matt 6:25).

Jesus’ teaching is very clear. Our security is not in material possessions or human strength. It is in Christ. See Hebrews 13:5-6.

4) My Strength is in Christ

I am able to cope because of the power of the Spirit within me. Jesus said to His disciples before He left, “But you will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you. And you will be my witnesses, telling people about me everywhere—in Jerusalem, throughout Judea, in Samaria, and to the ends of the earth” (Acts 1:8).

Yet, these disciples were rejected again and again for the name of the Christ. But all the way through they succeeded because of the power of the Holy Spirit within them. Just as Jesus promised.

When we are filled with the Spirit we can face any rejection. Jesus knows what it means to be rejected.

He was despised and rejected—a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief. We turned our backs on Him and looked the other way. He was despised, and we did not care” (Isa. 53:3).

But through it all, Jesus entrusted Himself to the Father. He rose from the dead and now is triumphant, sitting at the right hand of the Father where He will be exalted forever.

We too can survive rejection because we know that ultimately we are accepted forever.

Remember these affirmations!

1) My worth is in Christ. I am valued because of the price He paid for me.

2) My identity is in Christ. I have a sense of dignity because of what Christ is doing in me.

3) My security is in Christ. I have no fear of loss, failure or ruin because the Lord is with me.

4) My strength is in Christ. I am able to cope because of the power of the Holy Spirit within me.


This sermon was preached by Pastor Elio Marrocco on November 10, 2019 at New Life Christian Church

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