“The Truth About Words”
Note these three truths about words:
1. Words cost
There is right to free speech, but that does not mean you can say anything you want, whenever you want and not give an account to God for it. We have freedom of speech, but words are not free. Words have consequences. You need to be careful about what you say to your spouse, children, friends, and anyone!
Words may cost you your relationship with people. We must give an account to God for every idle word! There is a higher law than the laws of the Country. Let Psalms 141:3 be your prayer and Psalms 39:1 be your life. It is possible to sin with the tongue (Proverbs 12:18).
We must also be careful of sarcasm! Judy Porter, said about sarcasm,
‘For the deliverer – it offers short-term positive impact in the form of a quick ego boost achieved through undermining colleagues. For the receiver, it sends a clear message: “I’m not willing to confront issues, I’m happy just to make snide comments and, if confronted, hide behind the cliché ‘it was just a joke’”. For the team, it begs the question, “If he says this about them, what is he saying about me?” Like a slowly rotting cancer, it destroys relationships and … motivation and morale is slowly eaten away…’ Judy Porter
2. Words hurt
Someone said, ‘BE SURE TO TASTE YOUR WORDS BEFORE YOU SPIT THEM OUT!’
The Bible says, Like a person with a rifle shooting at people, we put stabs and jabs in our words (Proverbs 26:18-19).
Many times, we may say:
- I was only joking
- You are too sensitive
- I didn’t mean it
Jesus said, ‘Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks’ (Matthew 12:34). If we are saying it, it means it is already in the heart!
Jesus compared words to fruit, fruits come from trees. Trees have roots – what is at the root of the words we speak?
The root can be:
Psychology teaches that: “Hurt people, hurt people.” Here is how we can deal with bad words: repent of them and ask forgiveness to God first and then to the people we have spoken those words. And we must forgive those people who hurt us. Someone said, ‘We have all been hurt by words before. So, before you speak, think about how your words might affect someone else.’
3. Words last
We tend to lie to ourselves thinking that words disappear. The truth is they don’t disappear! James 3:5 “… the tongue can start a fire…” Words can wound for a long time.
Now, bad words last, but so do good words. See 2 Timothy 1:3 and 5. Paul is saying “I am building a monument of words before God.” Words cost, but words can be an investment with people. God is vitally interested in what we say, how we say it, how much we say and why. Be an encourager. Build people up! Words hurt, but they can also heal. Words last, both the bad and good words.
HOW CAN WE SPEAK GOOD WORDS?
1. Control Your Impulses and Speak Wisely
Always ask God to help you guard your tongue:
‘Take control of what I say, O Lord, and guard my lips.’
Always THINK before you speak:
- Is it TRUE?
- Is it HELPFUL?
- Is it INSPIRING?
- Is it NECESSARY?
- Is it KIND?
Always remember that our witness for Christ is on the line. James 1:26.
2. Conquer Bitterness and Speak Kindly
‘Gentle words are a tree of life; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit.’
‘HURTFUL WORDS COMES OUT OF A HURTING HEART!’
Angry people speak angry words.
Bitter people speak bitter words.
Critical people speak critical words.
We must speak kind words!
‘Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behaviour.’
3. Correct Your Attitude and Speak Positively
What can we do to make sure our words have a positive impact on others?
Remember the words of Jesus, ‘A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart’ (Luke 6:45).
And let’s continue to learn from Jesus! He had a truthful speech, he used gentle, wise, and healing words. His words had a positive impact on others.
This sermon was preached by Pastor Elio Marrocco on March 17, 2019 at New Life Christian Church